Phubbing evidences itself primarily when reading emails, taking calls, texting others, surfing the web, or playing games precludes being attentive to another person who is physically present. The Motley Monk has observed people phubbing others (or being phubbed himself) during meals, while driving with someone to a destination, and in movie theaters. The Motley Monk has noted an increase in phubbing God during Sunday Mass, especially (but not exclusively) on the part of young people.
- 46.3% of respondents reported being phubbed by their partner;
- 22.6% said this phubbing caused conflict in their relationships; and,
- 36.6% reported feeling depressed at least some of the time.
What we discovered was that when someone perceived that their partner phubbed them, this created conflict and led to lower levels of reported relationship satisfaction. These lower levels of relationship satisfaction, in turn, led to lower levels of life satisfaction and, ultimately, higher levels of depression.
Ever called someone out for phubbing? The reaction is a classic example of Freud’s defense mechanism, rationalization.
Why not call phubbing what it is? Namely, a fundamental lack of courtesy in a relationship that communicates to the other person in that relationship the very clear message: “Right now, someone or something else is of far greater importance to me than you.” In short, “It’s all about me.”
How about resolving to give up phubbing on Christmas Day?
Let the discussion begin...
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